Lost, But Holding Hands

wow has a lot happened since we last wrote. most significantly LB's goal has been changed by the court from reunification to termination of parental rights. that means little bear's parents' rights would be legally terminated and he would be eligible for adoption. there are lots of steps in the process, but changing the goal was a big one and had to be the first thing to happen. forward. the next thing that has to happen, if a foster family is interested in adopting the child they've had in their home, is ensure they have a foster contract with the state. who knew that it also meant taking another round of classes and having an addendum to the original home study among other fun things. we lucked out when talking to our licensing worker and found a class that was just about to start. three short weeks later we were done with classes and ready for the addendum to be written. our worker will be here friday to do her adoption addendum visit and then we can cross that o...

You would be surprised {or maybe you wouldn't be} at the questions we get asked about Ryan and our choice to foster/adopt.  The comments from friends and family don't boggle us as much as the comments from acquaintances and even strangers.  I imagine that most questions and comments are made with the best intentions.  So here we go- top 5 most frequent comments: 5. So what's the story? Why was he taken away from his parents? I actually understand this one. Kids in care are somewhat of an anomaly and people are just seeking to understand. BUT it's not really anyone's business to know. We don't want someone airing our dirty laundry or family secrets to others, why would we do it to our child?  4. So don't you guys get paid to have him? Like how much is it? I knew this one girl who knew these people who fostered 6,538 kids a month just to make money off of them, blah, blah, blah the system's broken It's exactly NONEofYOURdamnBUSINESS a month. ...